Carolina Perez Sanz
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#183 – Why won’t my Ego let go of that bone?
For the Ego, winning isn’t enough. It has to do it with flying colors and undeniable…
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#182 – Who gets in the way of your forgiving?
During a therapy session in a TV series, a woman whose husband had an affair says…
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#181 – And when *I* caused the harm?
A former client once told me that, as a toddler and young kid, she used to…
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#180 – But what if they *really* hurt me?
When someone causes us (or someone we care about) harm, a common reaction is anger. After…
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#179 – Forgiveness is key, but how do you actually do it?
During a group coaching call, a participant asked the question: “how do you forgive someone or…
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#178 – Will your Ego ever leave you alone?
Short answer: no. But you created it, so you might as well train it so it…
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#177 – What is life asking of you?
When I told my husband about the radical acceptance stance I’ve been trying to practice, he…
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#176 – What do you gain when you fight reality?
Nothing. Period. For years, I bought into the concept of “create the life you want.” I…
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#175 – …But is it your True Self or your Ego talking?
We all hear a voice (or several) nagging at us from between our ears: you should…
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#174 – How will respecting your True Self change your experience?
For years, I was stuck in my father’s comment from 1983. At 13, I interpreted his…
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#173 – How does the Ghost of Undervaluing derail your life?
The words validation and valuation have the same Latin origin: ‘valor,’ which means courage, value, and…
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#172 – Who wants you to “look good?”
Early in my career as a voice teacher for singers and actors, I noticed a pattern:…
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#171 – What’s the 2% truth in what my “opponent” is saying?
Picture the scene: you’re having one of those spinning-stuck arguments with someone. You both know it’s…
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#170 – How can I find some truth in opposing views?
Have you ever had an argument with someone that felt like spinning round in circles without…
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#169 – What’s grief for?
The Christmas after my mother’s stroke, my father decided “we weren’t the kind of family that…
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#168 – Can we joke our way to inner peace?
“There is faith in humor*.” Pope Francis Like your mind’s self-appointed Head of Risk Management and…
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#167 – What’s the antidote to the fear/hope spell?
In fear/hope mode, we’re like in a bubble of smog – we can’t see what’s in…
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#166 – Can we have hope without fear?
When we hope something will happen it’s because, at the same time, we fear something else…
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#165 – Is hope pulling you away from what is?
I’ve been writing about embracing life wholeheartedly, being happy no matter what, and allowing life to…
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#164 – Couldn’t we be happy no matter what?
Yesterday’s mini-essay contained an oversimplification: I wrote, “he’s invested so much in this future that he…
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#163 – How can you create your future from your present?
When dreams of “ideal scenarios” spur us into action, they act as a lever we can…
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#162 – What’s your source of disappointment?
Every time you experience disappointment, it’s because you’d dreamed up something (or someone), and then reality…
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#161 – What’s the Ghost of Isolation’s busiest time of the year?
All the Ghosts wring their hands in anticipation whenever the Ego sends them to work on…
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#160 – What happens when you don’t look away?
You’ve heard it before: the only way is through. But fear – that powerful self-protection-driven emotion…
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#159 – How does gratitude change your experience?
“Imagine a world in which your entire possession is one raspberry and you give it to…
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#158 – How your preferences make you unhappy
“The Great Way [Dao] is not difficult for those who have no preference.” Seng Ts’an, the…
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#157 –To what extent are our goals driven by status?
Yesterday, writing about the Hermès Birkin handbag (with price points anywhere between $22,000 and $225,000) left…
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#156 – What’s the point of setting goals?
Goals, when based on the inspiration your True Self receives, are a gravitational force. You’re inspired…
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#155 – Why is it so hard to hear ‘no?’
Because asking takes courage. And if we do it and we’re told ‘no,’ we feel crushed.…
Carolina Perez Sanz 