What’s difficult about making a “difficult” decision?
Typically, that we’re not sure of how it’ll pan out, and so we fear that we may end up with an unwanted outcome.
Beyond the fact that this is poor reasoning, since we know that result and decision-making process don’t necessarily correlate, fearing an unwanted outcome is narrow-minded.
I could think that filing a complaint against the doctor who’d injected me with a narcotic without my consent was the wrong decision. In fact, I’ve held that belief for months: if I hadn’t, the judge said, my son’s case would’ve come to a faster resolution.
True.
But also, my son wouldn’t have had the advanced degree that living with 70 men in a cell block offered him. Then, without the discomfort of the idea of staying in Florida during the completion of his sentence, we wouldn’t have thought of exploring other places and wouldn’t have landed in Milwaukee––which, for now, is making my husband extremely happy.
All your decisions can be reframed. When you end up with an unwanted situation, that undesirableness spurs you to imagine what you do want, and that imagination sets in motion your journey towards change.
In other words, if you want to improve and expand your life, you need to face undesired situations, because that’s what triggers your desire for something different. Without that “yuckiness,” there’s no need to want to change. Ergo, you’re stuck.
What decision will you relax into, knowing that it can never be wrong?
Love
Carolina
Carolina Perez Sanz 